So, I’ve been dealing with a few particular bitter persons for quite some time, and usually it is every easy for me to push right through it. But even the best of us can fall victim to someone else’s negative energy. I’ve tried reasoning, I’ve tried understanding, I’ve tried confronting yet nothing seems to work to change this persons behaviour. I’m here to let you know, you can’t change anyone’s behaviour but your own. I have some tricks that work best when I’m in my right mind and functioning at my highest vibrations. Which I’m proud to say is more often than not.
1. Don’t argue with crazy. You may have heard the saying, ” never argue with a fool because from a distance, no one can tell who is who.”
This is so true and I have to tell myself and others close to me this all the time. Save your breath, your thumb strength and your one liners. This person is not operating from a space of caring. None of your well thought out and supported facts will be received. You end up questioning yourself or your own intentions when there is no evidence to support their view. They are normally operating from hearsay at best.
2. Interact with this person as little as possible.
Don’t expose yourself to any mistreatment that isn’t necessary. This will only cause you angst, anger, sadness and all of the emotions in between. Use as little conversation to get your goal accomplished or get through an event. Anything more is when you begin to or risk your spirit being drained.
3. Do something else.
By this I mean, do something else to remove yourself from the uncomfortable situation. Focus on kids or other things that will allow you to spend as little time as possible under their gaze and provides you with a mood changer.
4. Don’t try to get them to understand you, they won’t!
They’re never going to understand your point of view. They don’t care about it. Their intensions are often times rooted in making you feel bad, or causing some disruption in your life. Take back your power and save yourself the trouble of a one on one.
5. Don’t get caught up in the blame game!
A person will find any reason, or excuse to blame your for the things going wrong in their life instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. You don’t have the power to control another persons outcome. Unless your name is Charles Manson or Jim Jones, I think you can free yourself of this guilt.
6. Remember the bigger picture.
There is a reason that you have to subject yourself to this person in the first place. There has to be a bigger picture at play. It may be a job that you love or a relationship with a loved one at stake. When you are feeling like doing something that wouldn’t be in your best interest, remind yourself that the reason you are here is bigger than them or you.
7. Don’t ask them for anything.
Sometimes this person may have something you want or need. And you feel that if you ask them nicely they’ll share it with you willingly, saving you time. But this person does not run on ‘wills.’ At least not when it comes to you. So, just avoid the plague they’ll send your way by even asking. Get your own!
8. Love your self!
Love yourself so much that nothing this person has to say, negative or otherwise has any affect on how you feel about yourself
There are some people you just can’t cut out of your life no matter how much you wish you could. If there’s no strings attached, grab a pair of scissors. If you don’t have that option then try these steps, let me know how they work!
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Tell me how you feel after implementing these steps into your life. Were they helpful
or do you have any tips that aren’t listed but work best for you? Leave them below!