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#Recipe Alert! Vegan Chocolate Chip Cookies

vegan chocolate chip cookies

I am at the stage in my Veganism (is that a word?) where I am ready to take on new challenges. Vegan chocolate chip cookies were definitely a worthy opponent.

It’s a baking dish, so it’s not overly difficult and as long as you follow directions they aren’t easy to mess up. The only question was, would it taste good?

Part of being a vegan is finding replacements for things you love but aren’t as harmful to your self or the environment around you. And let me tell you something, this is a GRRRREAT replacement.

vegan chocolate chip cookies

When I first started mixing the ingredients up I wasn’t too sure this was going to work. When I added the coconut milk things got a little to lucid. But it all worked out in the end.

A plus about this recipe is that it won’t require any ingredients you can’t find at your local grocery store. I got 7/9 of the ingredients at a dollar tree. You won’t even be breaking the bank! So get into it!

vegan chocolate chip cookies

Here’s what you’ll need:

1/4 cup Applesauce

1/4 cup Coconut Milk

2 1/4 cups All-purpose Flour

1 tsp Baking Soda

1 1/4 cups Brown Sugar, Light PACKED

2 cups Chocolate Chips

1/2 tsp Salt

2 tsp Vanilla Extract

1/2 cup Coconut Oil, Solid

(Flaky Sea Salt Optional)

Instructions:

  1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees ( I like my cookies a little softer and use a dark pan)
  2. In a large bowl whisk together the coconut oil, brown sugar, and vanilla, beating until well combined. Add in the coconut milk and applesauce and whisk until well combined; set aside. In a separate bowl combine the flour, baking soda, and salt; whisk well to combine. (If you mess up on this step, no worries! Be sure to stir vigorously, and test the dough to make sure it is mixed well.)
  3. The batter will be very thick! Fold in 1 and 3/4 cups of the chocolate chips. Scoop three tablespoon sized mounds of dough onto the prepared cookie sheet, leaving a few inches between each cookies for spreading. Bake for 12 to 15  minutes, or until the edges are golden and the centers have set. Press remaining chocolate chips on top of warm cookies, and sprinkle with sea salt, if using. Cool cookies on the baking sheet for 15 minutes before transferring them to a cooling rack.

 

Orignal Recipe

Wellness Journey + Weight Loss

Before having my kids I was on a wellness journey, though I didn’t know it at the time. I maintained a steady weight for the most part and worked out regularly but with no goal in mind. Thinking back on that time, I never once wondered what I was putting into my body. Though I did proactively feed myself mentally and spiritually by reading.

Since having my kids I have struggled daily and sometimes minute by minute to reclaim my body, my health and my self-confidence. I use the term WELLNESS instead of fitness or weight-loss when describing my journey because it is so much more than losing weight or being a certain size. It is about taking care of of the mind, soul and body. It’s about watching what is fed into your soul just as much as watch what you put into your body or what you allow yourself to think about.

When I first started my wellness journey I didn’t realize that it was going to take a lot of effort on my part. I didn’t realize there was more to my health than just wanting. It’s easy to put an hour in the gym but what are you going to do with the other 23 hours. You have to need it. You have to believe it and you have to focus your intention on what exactly it is that you want. To help you focus your intentions it helps to clear your space.

wellness journey

It is so important to clear your space of junk. This doesn’t just mean get rid of those chocolate chip cookies in the cabinet. This also goes for social media and things like it. Follow accounts that encourage you to reach your goals. Not those accounts that are showing moist chocolate or those that or showing unattainable “body goals”. Don’t hesitate to remove anything that doesn’t speak to the energy you are trying to create. Anything less would be to set your self up for triggers and make things harder. Don’t drive by that Starbucks you like to frequent on your way home if it’s going to make it hard for you to stay on track and reach your goal. After all, the point is to reach your goals.

During this time I have lost over 25 pounds, and between 5-6 inches off of my waist. And I’m not done yet. My hope is to eventually help others on their road to looking good, but more importantly feeling good. When you take on an endeavor of becoming a healthier version of your self it is so important to not just focus on what a scale says. Measure your progress by how well you are managing life, how good you feel mentally as well as physically. How does your soul feel?

 

 

What is there to gain from suffering?

Sometimes I find myself wondering, why is it that people have to die? Why is it that we must suffer? And though I don’t claim to be religious, I do find comfort in things from several religions. Being that I was raised a Christian, this is usually my first go to.

Like most people who have an unanswerable question, I took to Google. Not just because I’ve felt suffering, but because I feel that my suffering doesn’t even begin to compare to some other people. Why is it that I can hope for a brighter future, when there are others staring into an inevitable darkness? What makes me so special, or so ordinary? Sometimes so capable of taking my suffering in stride an other times feeling like I carry the weight of a world full of pain?

I am probably what most would call a “bleeding heart.” I am always trying to put myself in someone else’s shoes, feel their suffering and understand their pain. Though I’m not always at my best, this can lead me to some dark and somber places. When I took to Google to ask the question, “Why do some people suffer more than others?” what came back surprised me and brought me out.

 

“Scripture tells us that some people suffer because of divine punishment, some for their faith, and some to save others.”

 

As I mentioned, my go to when looking into things like this is usually whatever pops up regarding the Bible first. What I found was, of course, that God allowed many people to suffer in the Bible. But what I hadn’t thought about were the reasons behind this. What I found on the YMI website was this, “Scripture tells us that some people suffer because of divine punishment, some for their faith, and some to save others.”

I don’t mean this to be a sermon, but of course we know that the suffering of Jesus was for us, the suffering of Job was to test his faith. But divine punishment? I couldn’t readily recall anything regarding divine punishment. After some research, and to avoid jumping religions, the “Great Flood” would be considered a divine punishment from God. 

 

“What are you suffering for?”

Besides the possibility of everlasting life, what could you possibly gain from the suffering of anyone? A will to survive. A passion to help and prevent this suffering from happening less and less, until you’ve found a symbolic or even literal vaccination for that suffering. Whether that suffering was put in place by God, or it is something that is a result of the Big Bang, wouldn’t being able to lessen that suffering contribute something greater to the Universe? And when I think about the people that I have lost, shouldn’t I gain something from their memory that encourages me to carry on and live my best life, so that I can help someone do the same? From my own personal suffering, should I see it though, I see myself speaking life into others who find themselves in a dark place.

Most people will suffer, and some suffering will be more than others. But I find comfort in the idea that some of that suffering is to help us live a better life. And some of that suffering is so that we can improve the lives of others. What are you suffering for?

RIP to my Great Uncle Aaron, who was the inspiration behind this post.

8 Tips for Dealing with Bitter and Angry People

So, I’ve been dealing with a few particular bitter persons for quite some time, and usually it is every easy for me to push right through it. But even the best of us can fall victim to someone else’s negative energy. I’ve tried reasoning, I’ve tried understanding, I’ve tried confronting yet nothing seems to work to change this persons behaviour. I’m here to let you know, you can’t change anyone’s behaviour but your own.  I have some tricks that work best when I’m in my right mind and functioning at my highest vibrations. Which I’m proud to say is more often than not.

1. Don’t argue with crazy. You may have heard the saying, ” never argue with a fool because from a distance, no one can tell who is who.”
This is so true and I have to tell myself and others close to me this all the time. Save your breath, your thumb strength and your one liners. This person is not operating from a space of caring. None of your well thought out and supported facts will be received. You end up questioning yourself or your own intentions when there is no evidence to support their view. They are normally operating from hearsay at best.

2. Interact with this person as little as possible.
Don’t expose yourself to any mistreatment that isn’t necessary. This will only cause you angst, anger, sadness and all of the emotions in between. Use as little conversation to get your goal accomplished or get through an event. Anything more is when you begin to or risk your spirit being drained.

3. Do something else.
By this I mean, do something else to remove yourself from the uncomfortable situation. Focus on kids or other things that will allow you to spend as little time as possible under their gaze and provides you with a mood changer.

4. Don’t try to get them to understand you, they won’t!
They’re never going to understand your point of view. They don’t care about it. Their intensions are often times rooted in making you feel bad, or causing some disruption in your life. Take back your power and save yourself the trouble of a one on one.

5. Don’t get caught up in the blame game!
A person will find any reason, or excuse to blame your for the things going wrong in their life instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. You don’t have the power to control another persons outcome. Unless your name is Charles Manson or Jim Jones, I think you can free yourself of this guilt.

6. Remember the bigger picture.
There is a reason that you have to subject yourself to this person in the first place. There has to be a bigger picture at play. It may be a job that you love or a relationship with a loved one at stake. When you are feeling like doing something that wouldn’t be in your best interest, remind yourself that the reason you are here is bigger than them or you.

7. Don’t ask them for anything.
Sometimes this person may have something you want or need. And you feel that if you ask them nicely they’ll share it with you willingly, saving you time. But this person does not run on ‘wills.’ At least not when it comes to you. So, just avoid the plague they’ll send your way by even asking. Get your own!

8. Love your self!
Love yourself  so much that nothing this person has to say, negative or otherwise has any affect on how you feel about yourself

There are some people you just can’t cut out of your life no matter how much you wish you could. If there’s no strings attached, grab a pair of scissors. If you don’t have that option then try these steps, let me know how they work!

Here is an article if you need more steps that the ones above: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prescriptions-life/201201/dont-try-reason-unreasonable-people

Tell me how you feel after implementing these steps into your life. Were they helpful
or do you have any tips that aren’t listed but work best for you? Leave them below!

#Fitspiration: My Favorite 3 Instagram Fit Chicks

If you know me, you know that I am really into fitness and being healthy but I am not without fault. So, I like to follow fitness Instagram accounts that will keep me motivated and inspire me with new routines and maybe even a few tips on how to eat right when I’m not too sure what I should be doing. Here are a list of my go to accounts:

 

  1. Qui2health

Qui2health, or Quianna is extremely inspiring. First of all, she is total #bodygoals! She give us fashion fierceness and she changes up her routine regularly. If you are ever lost in the sauce and wondering what you can do with your workout today to try and switch it up, head over to her page and you will definitely leave with some good ideas, whether it’s her working out or a videoclip of one of her clients. Side note, she also trains Bernice Burgos!!!! And these things aren’t even the best part, she also goes live on Instagram some mornings and evenings and does Q&A’s:

 

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2.Mankofit

A lot of fitness journeys come as a way to cope with other things. It’s no secret that exercising and diet changes can contribute to a healthier and happier lifestyle. So when you come across someone like Mankofit, or Massy Arias it can be very encouraging to see her progression. Before starting her journey she said, “[She] spent seven months in a dark room,” she says. “I would not shower. I started losing my hair.” Fast forward to now and she has 2.2 million followers, a new man and a newborn. If that isn’t enough to make you want to follow, here are a few pics of her below, BTW’s some of her workouts may come with a warning label:

 

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3. Trainwithmarissa

Last but definitely not least is Trainwithmarissa. She’s body goals, business goals and life goals. And she doesn’t mind sharing her tribulations in an encouraging way. She has stated that in the past she was living a lifestyle that didn’t allow her to love herself. Fast forward to now and this #curvyfit ambassador is inspiring others to never give up. Everyone has hard times, but in the end you have to remember to pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Below is a pic of her, caption included because it is a much needed #message:

 

These past few months have been extremely trying for me emotionally, to the point where I felt like I couldn’t catch a break. As a result, my goals and happiness took a backseat and I allowed myself to become consumed in everything that has been going wrong, but that’s changing TODAY. I had to realize that although I can’t always control what happens in my life, I can always control my reaction to each trying event. If you’ve been going thru it, it’s time to regroup and find your happiness. It’s easy to fall into the trap of letting life’s hardships consume us but resiliency is key. 🔑 BOUNCE BACK‼️Know that you’re not alone and whatever you’re going through, you CAN and WILL get through it. Don’t dwell on things – learn the lesson, keep it moving, and get back to your destiny. It’s time to glo up 👑 . . . . #TrainWithMarissa#ThickFit#CurvyFit#FitLife#NikeWomen#ChicagoFitness#WomenWhoLift#FitChicks#NaturalHair#TeamNatural#FitNaturals#NaturalHairDaily#FitThick#Results#Goals#Abs#ThickThighs#Fitness#FitWomen#NikeWomen#WSHHFitness#LegDay#FitAndThick#HealthyLiving#ChicagoTrainer#Natural#UpperBody#NoFilter#BounceBack#Motivation#Fitspiration

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These three ladies are my go to when I am not sure what to do in the gym or if I need to remember what I am working for. I swear the universe will always answer your calls, you just need to remain open. I don’t have money for a trainer so I try to find my answers elsewhere. Between these three ladies you can find the answers to almost any question, inspiration and encouragement. Do you follow any Instagram accounts that inspire you? Share them below!

[VIdeo] ‘ Blazin’ Wing Challenge ‘ at Buffalo Wild Wings

Buffalo Wild Wings currently has a ” Blazin’ Wing Challenge ” and if you eat 12 wings in under 6 minutes you get a shirt and your picture on the wall. I though it would be a good idea for my husband to give this a try. He HATES spicy food and I though it would be funny. But guess what? God don’t like ugly and he ain’t too fond of pretty. He struck me down, okay!? Here’s how I died and came back to life. Also catch the video that inspired me below:

Hope you enjoyed the video, she was hilarious but let me tell you. This video doesn’t even do the pain justice.

First of all I should have known better, the sauce was clumpy and extremely red. I don’t have a picture of my actual wings but I’ll tell you why later. I smelled them, they seemed harmless enough, I rubbed my finger against one and my throat was lightly scorched but nothing major. So, it comes time for my husband to take his first bite and that’s all he does! He takes on bite, starts coughing like he was smoking purp and runs to the kitchen sink. Spitting his bit out along the way. But I was expecting this.This is the norm for him. He doesn’t use hot sauce. He buys stuffed jalapeños, only eats the cheese and still thinks it’s too spicy.

I’m thinking I don’t want to waste perfectly good food and I can handle it. That was a lie, I took one bite, drenched it in ranch ( which is why I don’t have a good pic) and ate two more. After each bite I had to leave the room, come back, drench another side in ranch and take another bite. After about  3 trips my lips were on fire, my throat was burning and water was not doing the job! Water made it worse!

These things are so ridiculously hot, I swear the devil put a little spit in it. Buffalo Wild Wings is malicious for making these things. They don’t love you and God doesn’t love them. They certainly made a deal with the devil for hell sauce. My ears were burning, my nose was running and I was sticking my lips under the faucet just to keep them cool. Even hot food created a heat in my mouth I wasn’t ready for. It brought the flames back alive! By the time my lips stopped burning my insides felt like a volcano was erupting. I knew it was over for me. I felt violated and my whole body was shaking. There’s no way any human can enjoy these. If you try them understand it is strictly for bragging rights. It’s going to burn, there’s nothing you can. Just don’t do it! This is every hateful thing you’ve ever thought or done, put in the form of a sauce. All I wanted to do was expel that demon food from my body.

I’m scarred, I won’t be eating anything else spicy anytime soon. Just thinking about it is making my lip burn.

Do you think you could hang?

 

Toxic Relationships #101

Toxic relationships happen to most everyone in the dating sphere. For some it can be really easy to walk away from these toxic situations and it can be easy to judge someone that may be with the wrong person. But for other people it’s not so easy. They may not even know the relationship is unhealthy, and those ties that bind them to that person can seem unbreakable. The idea of being able to break away may seem like more work than staying. If you are one of those people that are in an unhealthy or toxic relationship hopefully we can help. 

Does this person respect your or your space?

It’s not uncommon to want to be with someone all of the time. But when you do take a break from constant companionship are you constantly being hounded? Do you receive text after text or back to back phone calls until you return? This can be a sign of distrust but it can also be a sign that something in the relationship just isn’t healthy. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be able to go to work and not have 10 missed calls by your lunch break. There is also no reason that you should be getting called out of your name or belittled. Whether you make less money or have made some mistakes in the past. These aren’t reasons to be constantly disrespected. Especially if someone tells you they love but as soon as things aren’t going their way they throw these things in your face to hurt you. 

When you express yourself, does this person truly hear you?

This can be dealing with your dreams, goals and aspirations or I’m sure you’ve noticed some signs that may not be sitting well with you. If you’ve brought these things to your partners attention, have they made excuses for their ways, using how much they love you to rationalize their own behavior. If they are actively trying to change, that may be great too but that doesn’t mean you need to stick by them while they make these changes. Only you can decide if it’s worth the wait. If there is any abuse at hand, it may be better to just walk away. 

When you leave, do they beg you to stay?

When you finally decide this relationship isn’t for you, it’s not uncommon for that person to beg and plead for you to stay or return. They could be on their hands and knees, crying you rivers of love but beneath it all they are still trying to control the situation. They might even result to stalking. Or try some grand act to win your love only to show you that they are the same person. Don’t get caught up in the theatrics. Anyone who truly loved you would acknowledge the unhealthy behavior and work on themselves rather than continue to hold you hostage. 

What you need to know!

There are kids involved: Whether they are your kids together or just the kids of you or your partner, you can’t feel that staying together is the best option. Kids deserve to see a vibrant, happy and healthy parent or figure in their life. If the other person is making you feel anything other than strong and uplifted then the better situation may be to go. Being a strong role model for your children or their is more important than sticking something out. Whether the children in the situation are yours or not you can allow them to think the behavior your experiencing is okay. Don’t think about staying because of them, consider leaving for you and them. 
You can’t fix them: You may be a psychologist but it wouldn’t be enough to fix a broken person. That can only happen with time and determination on their end. You shouldn’t have to carry the weight of their burdens, no matter how much you love them. If those burdens are causing you to be unwell, in any form, you need to free yourself. This doesn’t just apply to physical abuse. You can be the target of verbal abuse or unsteady mood changes. This person could be putting you at risk because they don’t practice monogamy. These are their burdens and they are not your crosses to bare. 
Reach out to family and friends: Undoubtedly your family and friends may have distanced themselves from you and your partner because of the toxicity. You might feel like they don’t want to hear from you or help but it couldn’t be further from the truth. Reach out to them, they may give you a place to stay if needed. If you don’t have any friends, make some. Find someone you feel you can trust, that doesn’t know your partner and they may be willing to help you. 
Stay strong: I mentioned stalking briefly but you can’t underestimate the power of someone who doesn’t want to see you go. They can pop up at your job, or any other place they feel you might be. Don’t give in. Ignore them when they call or change your number and routine. If it gets too crazy don’t hesitate to call the law. It’s better to be safe than sorry. You have to do this for you. No one else will take your health serious, it’s up to you. 
Not all relationships that exhibit these tendencies are toxic, but if they are something you are dealing with on a regular basis then it may be something to consider. And as always, only you know the best road to your happiness, remove any roadblocks.
**Any tips on how to spot a toxic relationships or ways to get out of one? Share them below!**

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#LostandFound: What To Do When You Feel Lost And Have No Motivation

No matter where you are in life, it’s not uncommon to feel lost, listless and purely unmotivated. Anyone who is in this moment knows that you can’t stay in this spot forever.  It could pass on its own or you can be proactive. If you can’t afford to be in this funk then here are a list of things that just might help!

1. Fasting! There’s nothing like a little deprivation to clear your mind. When your mind is clear you will be able to connect with the things that really matter to you. It has also been shown to have mood boosting affects. Fasting has also been known to help with weight loss when done intermittently. There are several ways to fast. Such as ingesting nothing but water up until a certain time of day, or only ingesting fruits and veggies. I’ve found this to be very helpful when trying to overcome negative situations and energy.

2. Write your feelings down! This can be a good accompaniment to fasting as well as prayer. Getting those ideas, fears, negative thoughts on paper can be like release therapy. You can burn them or save them to go back to later. When your mind is clear you may have some great gems to go back to and revisit. You can also revisit your goals or things you are working toward. Reminding yourself what you are doing and why can help reignite  the flame. Don’t lost track of where you’re going!

3. Travel! To me, there is nothing more soothing that sitting on a beach watching the waves come and go. Even the drive to your destination can even allow you time to clear your head and reconnect with the things that matter most to you. You can literally leave those worries behind for a moment and escape whatever is that is bothering you. When you comeback, you’ll have a new attitude and be ready to conquer. If you can’t travel, take a walk. I’m cheap, theres always an alternative!

4.Rest! You don’t always have to be on top of it every second of the day. It’s okay to take a day off and do absolutely nothing but stuff your face and binge watch Netflix. You have to take a break sometimes! Give yourself a specified amount of time to be in this funk and once it’s over get back to business. You have goals to reach! 

When you’re feeling like you might not be going down the right path, or you have no motivation to continue down the one you’re on try these steps. They’ve been a great help to me, let me know if they work for you!

 

**If you have any other ideas or tips to help get you back on your path leave them below or send me a message!**

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2017: The Year of Acceptance

When a new year starts it can be daunting to think about changing when you haven’t even accepted who or where you are. I would like to take a moment to work on a part of the Serenity Prayer that has always struck a cord with me:

God, give me grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed, and the Wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

I know the new year is supposed to be about change. But this year, we may need to work on acceptance. This is a resolution that doesn’t get much recognition. There are so many people out there that are battling with their past, battling with their present, battling with their thoughts. Before you can change you need to accept that you are the person you are meant to be. There are some things about yourself that you just can’t change and need to be accepted and embraced to allow you to have a clear head. There is power in accepting who you are. When you truly accept who you are no one can tear you down for being gay, straight, transitioning, dark-skinned, light-skinned, Jewish or Atheist. You’ll begin to find power in those things that once were a sore spot for you.

Even things that can be improved upon can deserve some acceptance. Things like weight loss and mental illness are just a couple of things that also require acceptance. Accept that you are beautiful and capable no matter what. So that when you don’t have the energy or the drive to get things completed the way you would have hoped, you don’t allow it to consume you. You are still capable of continuing and picking yourself up from exactly where you left off.

We also need to accept unexpected change as it comes. Things may not have worked out how you expected this past year. Try accepting those changes, think about what you may have learned or what you may have gained from those unexpected changes and experiences. You can’t change the past any more than you can predict the future. Accept was has happened and do your best to make a brighter day, despite the difficulties you face.

Change is great but acceptance can be so powerful. Accept that you are who you were truly meant to be within. Any changes that come be they physical or metaphysical can only enhance what was already there in you all along. Accept who you are meant to be, challenges and all. Because if you are looking for change, it may not come easy. So accept the challenge. Change doesn’t have to be your only goal for 2017, and acceptance can be a catalyst.

**Do you have any things you are working on accepting in the new year or any goals you have set out? Drop them below! Your acceptance can help someone else!**