[VIdeo] ‘ Blazin’ Wing Challenge ‘ at Buffalo Wild Wings

Buffalo Wild Wings currently has a ” Blazin’ Wing Challenge ” and if you eat 12 wings in under 6 minutes you get a shirt and your picture on the wall. I though it would be a good idea for my husband to give this a try. He HATES spicy food and I though it would be funny. But guess what? God don’t like ugly and he ain’t too fond of pretty. He struck me down, okay!? Here’s how I died and came back to life. Also catch the video that inspired me below:

Hope you enjoyed the video, she was hilarious but let me tell you. This video doesn’t even do the pain justice.

First of all I should have known better, the sauce was clumpy and extremely red. I don’t have a picture of my actual wings but I’ll tell you why later. I smelled them, they seemed harmless enough, I rubbed my finger against one and my throat was lightly scorched but nothing major. So, it comes time for my husband to take his first bite and that’s all he does! He takes on bite, starts coughing like he was smoking purp and runs to the kitchen sink. Spitting his bit out along the way. But I was expecting this.This is the norm for him. He doesn’t use hot sauce. He buys stuffed jalapeños, only eats the cheese and still thinks it’s too spicy.

I’m thinking I don’t want to waste perfectly good food and I can handle it. That was a lie, I took one bite, drenched it in ranch ( which is why I don’t have a good pic) and ate two more. After each bite I had to leave the room, come back, drench another side in ranch and take another bite. After about  3 trips my lips were on fire, my throat was burning and water was not doing the job! Water made it worse!

These things are so ridiculously hot, I swear the devil put a little spit in it. Buffalo Wild Wings is malicious for making these things. They don’t love you and God doesn’t love them. They certainly made a deal with the devil for hell sauce. My ears were burning, my nose was running and I was sticking my lips under the faucet just to keep them cool. Even hot food created a heat in my mouth I wasn’t ready for. It brought the flames back alive! By the time my lips stopped burning my insides felt like a volcano was erupting. I knew it was over for me. I felt violated and my whole body was shaking. There’s no way any human can enjoy these. If you try them understand it is strictly for bragging rights. It’s going to burn, there’s nothing you can. Just don’t do it! This is every hateful thing you’ve ever thought or done, put in the form of a sauce. All I wanted to do was expel that demon food from my body.

I’m scarred, I won’t be eating anything else spicy anytime soon. Just thinking about it is making my lip burn.

Do you think you could hang?


Toxic Relationships #101

Toxic relationships happen to most everyone in the dating sphere. For some it can be really easy to walk away from these toxic situations and it can be easy to judge someone that may be with the wrong person. But for other people it’s not so easy. They may not even know the relationship is unhealthy, and those ties that bind them to that person can seem unbreakable. The idea of being able to break away may seem like more work than staying. If you are one of those people that are in an unhealthy or toxic relationship hopefully we can help. 

Does this person respect your or your space?

It’s not uncommon to want to be with someone all of the time. But when you do take a break from constant companionship are you constantly being hounded? Do you receive text after text or back to back phone calls until you return? This can be a sign of distrust but it can also be a sign that something in the relationship just isn’t healthy. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be able to go to work and not have 10 missed calls by your lunch break. There is also no reason that you should be getting called out of your name or belittled. Whether you make less money or have made some mistakes in the past. These aren’t reasons to be constantly disrespected. Especially if someone tells you they love but as soon as things aren’t going their way they throw these things in your face to hurt you. 

When you express yourself, does this person truly hear you?

This can be dealing with your dreams, goals and aspirations or I’m sure you’ve noticed some signs that may not be sitting well with you. If you’ve brought these things to your partners attention, have they made excuses for their ways, using how much they love you to rationalize their own behavior. If they are actively trying to change, that may be great too but that doesn’t mean you need to stick by them while they make these changes. Only you can decide if it’s worth the wait. If there is any abuse at hand, it may be better to just walk away. 

When you leave, do they beg you to stay?

When you finally decide this relationship isn’t for you, it’s not uncommon for that person to beg and plead for you to stay or return. They could be on their hands and knees, crying you rivers of love but beneath it all they are still trying to control the situation. They might even result to stalking. Or try some grand act to win your love only to show you that they are the same person. Don’t get caught up in the theatrics. Anyone who truly loved you would acknowledge the unhealthy behavior and work on themselves rather than continue to hold you hostage. 

What you need to know!

There are kids involved: Whether they are your kids together or just the kids of you or your partner, you can’t feel that staying together is the best option. Kids deserve to see a vibrant, happy and healthy parent or figure in their life. If the other person is making you feel anything other than strong and uplifted then the better situation may be to go. Being a strong role model for your children or their is more important than sticking something out. Whether the children in the situation are yours or not you can allow them to think the behavior your experiencing is okay. Don’t think about staying because of them, consider leaving for you and them. 
You can’t fix them: You may be a psychologist but it wouldn’t be enough to fix a broken person. That can only happen with time and determination on their end. You shouldn’t have to carry the weight of their burdens, no matter how much you love them. If those burdens are causing you to be unwell, in any form, you need to free yourself. This doesn’t just apply to physical abuse. You can be the target of verbal abuse or unsteady mood changes. This person could be putting you at risk because they don’t practice monogamy. These are their burdens and they are not your crosses to bare. 
Reach out to family and friends: Undoubtedly your family and friends may have distanced themselves from you and your partner because of the toxicity. You might feel like they don’t want to hear from you or help but it couldn’t be further from the truth. Reach out to them, they may give you a place to stay if needed. If you don’t have any friends, make some. Find someone you feel you can trust, that doesn’t know your partner and they may be willing to help you. 
Stay strong: I mentioned stalking briefly but you can’t underestimate the power of someone who doesn’t want to see you go. They can pop up at your job, or any other place they feel you might be. Don’t give in. Ignore them when they call or change your number and routine. If it gets too crazy don’t hesitate to call the law. It’s better to be safe than sorry. You have to do this for you. No one else will take your health serious, it’s up to you. 
Not all relationships that exhibit these tendencies are toxic, but if they are something you are dealing with on a regular basis then it may be something to consider. And as always, only you know the best road to your happiness, remove any roadblocks.
**Any tips on how to spot a toxic relationships or ways to get out of one? Share them below!**


#LostandFound: What To Do When You Feel Lost And Have No Motivation

No matter where you are in life, it’s not uncommon to feel lost, listless and purely unmotivated. Anyone who is in this moment knows that you can’t stay in this spot forever.  It could pass on its own or you can be proactive. If you can’t afford to be in this funk then here are a list of things that just might help!

1. Fasting! There’s nothing like a little deprivation to clear your mind. When your mind is clear you will be able to connect with the things that really matter to you. It has also been shown to have mood boosting affects. Fasting has also been known to help with weight loss when done intermittently. There are several ways to fast. Such as ingesting nothing but water up until a certain time of day, or only ingesting fruits and veggies. I’ve found this to be very helpful when trying to overcome negative situations and energy.

2. Write your feelings down! This can be a good accompaniment to fasting as well as prayer. Getting those ideas, fears, negative thoughts on paper can be like release therapy. You can burn them or save them to go back to later. When your mind is clear you may have some great gems to go back to and revisit. You can also revisit your goals or things you are working toward. Reminding yourself what you are doing and why can help reignite  the flame. Don’t lost track of where you’re going!

3. Travel! To me, there is nothing more soothing that sitting on a beach watching the waves come and go. Even the drive to your destination can even allow you time to clear your head and reconnect with the things that matter most to you. You can literally leave those worries behind for a moment and escape whatever is that is bothering you. When you comeback, you’ll have a new attitude and be ready to conquer. If you can’t travel, take a walk. I’m cheap, theres always an alternative!

4.Rest! You don’t always have to be on top of it every second of the day. It’s okay to take a day off and do absolutely nothing but stuff your face and binge watch Netflix. You have to take a break sometimes! Give yourself a specified amount of time to be in this funk and once it’s over get back to business. You have goals to reach! 

When you’re feeling like you might not be going down the right path, or you have no motivation to continue down the one you’re on try these steps. They’ve been a great help to me, let me know if they work for you!


**If you have any other ideas or tips to help get you back on your path leave them below or send me a message!**

Photo cred: Flickr

2017: The Year of Acceptance

When a new year starts it can be daunting to think about changing when you haven’t even accepted who or where you are. I would like to take a moment to work on a part of the Serenity Prayer that has always struck a cord with me:

God, give me grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed, and the Wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

I know the new year is supposed to be about change. But this year, we may need to work on acceptance. This is a resolution that doesn’t get much recognition. There are so many people out there that are battling with their past, battling with their present, battling with their thoughts. Before you can change you need to accept that you are the person you are meant to be. There are some things about yourself that you just can’t change and need to be accepted and embraced to allow you to have a clear head. There is power in accepting who you are. When you truly accept who you are no one can tear you down for being gay, straight, transitioning, dark-skinned, light-skinned, Jewish or Atheist. You’ll begin to find power in those things that once were a sore spot for you.

Even things that can be improved upon can deserve some acceptance. Things like weight loss and mental illness are just a couple of things that also require acceptance. Accept that you are beautiful and capable no matter what. So that when you don’t have the energy or the drive to get things completed the way you would have hoped, you don’t allow it to consume you. You are still capable of continuing and picking yourself up from exactly where you left off.

We also need to accept unexpected change as it comes. Things may not have worked out how you expected this past year. Try accepting those changes, think about what you may have learned or what you may have gained from those unexpected changes and experiences. You can’t change the past any more than you can predict the future. Accept was has happened and do your best to make a brighter day, despite the difficulties you face.

Change is great but acceptance can be so powerful. Accept that you are who you were truly meant to be within. Any changes that come be they physical or metaphysical can only enhance what was already there in you all along. Accept who you are meant to be, challenges and all. Because if you are looking for change, it may not come easy. So accept the challenge. Change doesn’t have to be your only goal for 2017, and acceptance can be a catalyst.

**Do you have any things you are working on accepting in the new year or any goals you have set out? Drop them below! Your acceptance can help someone else!**